Chivalry
Does chivalry exist in our, so-called, modern age? I would unequivocally, say YES—in my trashy romance novels, that is. In reality? Seriously, I think that I would also say, yes. There are some true gentlemen out there—just not very many.
Gone are the Victorian era days (which is a very popular setting for my novels) when a gentleman would drape his $500 coat over a puddle for a lady to cross over. This is just not done in our day and age. If, by chance, a "gentleman" did do that, he would probably send his dry cleaning bill to you. : )
I think that Filipino men, in general, are chivalrous. Mind you, there are some exceptions. Generally, though, I think that this is true.
Culture and tradition have a strong influence in their development. Young men are taught to be courteous and respectful towards women. This is something that remains ingrained in them for life. (Get that smirk off of your face!)
It is a common sight, in the Philippines, to see a man holding the car door open for a woman. One of the true marks, I think, of a gentleman is when a couple is walking down a street and the man places the lady on the inside while he walks closest to the road. This does not require thought, it is just done automatically. Can you honestly say that you see this very often?
I can honestly say that I personally know a few of these "gentlemen". The first, and foremost, that pops into my head is my dear brother. He was trained really well —especially since he has two older sisters. Amy is a lucky lady. If you don’t believe me, ask her.
Although, the feminist movement is alive and well, I think that women can still appreciate being treated like a lady. I am all for equal rights but I acknowledge that there are some aspects where men are better than women. One would be where physical strength is required. Men were just made to be more muscular than women—I think that macho men look a whole lot better than macho women!
If you are thinking that being chivalrous is not a sign of a macho man, I beg to differ. I do not think that being gallant detracts, in any way, from the essence of a manly man. I find the opposite to be true. The chivalrous man becomes more macho because he is comfortable enough in his own skin to be able to be courteous to women.
Until next time. Take care.
